Comments on: How To Deal With Personal Issues At Work (Keep Personal Issues From Harming Your Job And Career) http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/how-to-deal-with-personal-issues-at-work-keep-personal-issues-from-harming-your-job-and-career/ Your Friendly Singapore Headhunter Agency Sun, 29 Aug 2010 12:38:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Wally Saddiq http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/how-to-deal-with-personal-issues-at-work-keep-personal-issues-from-harming-your-job-and-career/comment-page-1/#comment-106 Wally Saddiq Mon, 19 Oct 2009 18:06:54 +0000 http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/?p=261#comment-106 I found it helpful when you do some or all of the followings: 1. Separate your emotion between work and home. 2. Be open about it with your boss and colleagues. They will understand you better and work with you once they know what you are going through. 3. Try to find other activities that take your mind away from the problems that you have in your personal life (i.e. Join a gym, go to the movies, go out with friends, pick another hobby, etc.) 4. Find family members or friends that are willing to listen and provide you support as you are going through the problems. 5. Take few minutes before you start your work and clear your mind. (i.e. do yoga, prayers, or concentration exercises, etc.) 6. Find reasons to explain your emotions and this will help you to deal with them. 7. Make sure you do not pick up a habit that is more destructive than what you are going through. Do not drink or do drugs or take medication that may lead to dependency. 8. Be aware of your surrounding and the people around you like family and friends do not direct your anger or frustrations at them, they are a source of support and not bunching bags. If you loose your support network, you will end up in worse situation that where you come from. 9. Do not be afraid to seek professional help if you think you can not get over the emotion of your problems. Kind Regards, Wally Saddiq I found it helpful when you do some or all of the followings:

1. Separate your emotion between work and home.
2. Be open about it with your boss and colleagues. They will understand you better and work with you once they know what you are going through.
3. Try to find other activities that take your mind away from the problems that you have in your personal life (i.e. Join a gym, go to the movies, go out with friends, pick another hobby, etc.)
4. Find family members or friends that are willing to listen and provide you support as you are going through the problems.
5. Take few minutes before you start your work and clear your mind. (i.e. do yoga, prayers, or concentration exercises, etc.)
6. Find reasons to explain your emotions and this will help you to deal with them.
7. Make sure you do not pick up a habit that is more destructive than what you are going through. Do not drink or do drugs or take medication that may lead to dependency.
8. Be aware of your surrounding and the people around you like family and friends do not direct your anger or frustrations at them, they are a source of support and not bunching bags. If you loose your support network, you will end up in worse situation that where you come from.
9. Do not be afraid to seek professional help if you think you can not get over the emotion of your problems.

Kind Regards,

Wally Saddiq

]]> By: Jenny Ho http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/how-to-deal-with-personal-issues-at-work-keep-personal-issues-from-harming-your-job-and-career/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Jenny Ho Fri, 16 Oct 2009 02:03:20 +0000 http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/?p=261#comment-105 Hi Clive, thanks for your valuable inputs. I will definitely take note! Best Regards Jenny Hi Clive, thanks for your valuable inputs. I will definitely take note!

Best Regards

Jenny

]]> By: Clive http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/how-to-deal-with-personal-issues-at-work-keep-personal-issues-from-harming-your-job-and-career/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Clive Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:40:20 +0000 http://www.jenny-the-headhunter.com/?p=261#comment-104 Hello! Thank you for posting this. I DID go through one of the above mentioned issues while stationed in Singapore (during 9/11 attacks in 2001). Your article above appears inviting, however once reading it I feel a bit disappointed, as if there is no real help available in the article. Please consider adding more directly useful information, such as the names of local support groups (bereavement, divorce etc) where people in need of help can find it. Even just web links to something like RELATE might be wonderful to folk needing help. (Or friends looking on their behalf). Personally, I agree with all that you have written - it's all totally true. In my case, and in others that I know of, the individuals ability to "push aside the issue" and get back on the workhorse depends very much on the support network available to them. To pick oneself up after a really heavy emotional shock requires immense inner strength and also to reach understanding. What I found critical was the time it takes to reach understanding - to get beyond denial and reach at least acceptance. From there, it becomes much easier to move on and re-engage. Everyone goes through the same process, it's how quickly.... I can personally recommend Byron Katie "The Work" as a mechanism to accelerate this process. Please do keep up this kind of posting, it is really valuable stuff! My comments here are in hope of explaining my feelings about adding a bit more to what you have already done- I wish someone like you had been around when I needed help. Kind regards Clive Hello!
Thank you for posting this. I DID go through one of the above mentioned issues while stationed in Singapore (during 9/11 attacks in 2001).

Your article above appears inviting, however once reading it I feel a bit disappointed, as if there is no real help available in the article.

Please consider adding more directly useful information, such as the names of local support groups (bereavement, divorce etc) where people in need of help can find it. Even just web links to something like RELATE might be wonderful to folk needing help. (Or friends looking on their behalf).

Personally, I agree with all that you have written – it’s all totally true.
In my case, and in others that I know of, the individuals ability to “push aside the issue” and get back on the workhorse depends very much on the support network available to them.
To pick oneself up after a really heavy emotional shock requires immense inner strength and also to reach understanding. What I found critical was the time it takes to reach understanding – to get beyond denial and reach at least acceptance. From there, it becomes much easier to move on and re-engage. Everyone goes through the same process, it’s how quickly….

I can personally recommend Byron Katie “The Work” as a mechanism to accelerate this process.

Please do keep up this kind of posting, it is really valuable stuff! My comments here are in hope of explaining my feelings about adding a bit more to what you have already done- I wish someone like you had been around when I needed help.

Kind regards
Clive

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